Kid's football - Playing to win ??

[Black Green & Gold]

Speaking from my experience of coaching a kid's rugby team, this issue comes down to maintaining a sense of balance.

Winning is always important, after all there is no point playing if you are not going to compete. However you have to recognise that you are working with kid's, so results will not always go your way. With my team, I focus on performance. If the kid's put in a good performance then the result is beside the point. Linked to this is developing respect in the kids - respect for the game, respect for the shirt they wear and respect for themselves. Using this technique I have seen my team develop into a group of very confident young lads who, whilst they will not win every game, will always compete.

There is no excuse for abuse from parent's on the sideline and it is up to the coaches to instill the right culture of respect. At the end of the game, you have to be able to shake hands with the opposing coach and parents and walk off with a smile.

[MissFluffy'n'Pink]

BGG

It's pretty much that attitude that has led to my son going to rugby rather than football. He had one game stopped by the ref because one of the parents swore from the sidelines. Alothough it did lead to a pretty funny John Cleese style 'who said Jehovah' moment.
Seriously though I found that the attitude at football was completely different and not very pleasant.
Rugby does seem to instill a much greater degree of self discipline and respect.

[Russell WR]

Yeah, and big fat toothless zombies.

[MissFluffy'n'Pink]

Yeah, and big fat toothless zombies.

There you go then russ, you've found your spiritual home. Everyone's a winner.

[Black Green & Gold]

Fluffy,

One of my boys plays both kids football and rugby and is interesting to see the differences between the two.

I think one difference is that the football is always competitive, in a league system, whilst the rugby is the old system of friendlies between clubs. So, whilst there is club pride at stake there are no points or league postitions to be gained. I think this helps maintain a more civilised atmosphere.

[Russell WR]

They smelt of pubs and Wormwood scrubs?

On the same post about your boy?

Opinions must come with responsibilty, my dear. How can you opine about a serious subject with that tail ender on every post?

Be a mother, or a Pseudo intellectual message boarder, I've decided I'm not impressed, and if your son read your monicker, he may just feel the same.

[MissFluffy'n'Pink]

I've decided I'm not impressed

I'm sure I'll manage to struggle on through without your approval.

Like the rest of the UK, I don't find your view either relevant or important.

[Russell WR]

Oh.

You represent the UK do you?

Yeah, obviously, single parent, man hater, I bet your ex (husband) probably not, is so proud of you.

Your Todger dodger leanings will get the better of you girl.

Why don't you move in with one of the unemployable overwight Carribean girls who now infest our social services?


Be a parent, not an oracle, make your son proud of you, not message boarders.

[MissFluffy'n'Pink]

Oh.

You represent the UK do you?

Yeah, obviously, single parent, man hater, I bet your ex (husband) probably not, is so proud of you.

Your Todger dodger leanings will get the better of you girl.

Why don't you move in with one of the unemployable overwight Carribean girls who now infest our social services?


Be a parent, not an oracle, make your son proud of you, not message boarders.

Wrong in so many ways Russ.

Your children though must be ever so proud to have a racist drunk as a parent.

[Russell WR]

Yes, I think they are.

[Trent-Iffy]

I know a fella who ran an under 11s footy team. He had a rotation system so that every kid got a game and when one of the better players was dropped, he got a letter threatening him and his family.

Too many Chav parents in football who want to live their life through the kids. For God's sake, let the ankle bitters have some fun time and grow up without the stress of pushy parents. Lord knows that they'll get all those stresses later on in life.

Russ...Grow up please.

[Scott Nelson]

You are a twat. Get a life, saddo.
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[Russell WR]

This post has been removed because it broke houserules.

[Trent-Iffy]

Sorry Scott. No need for that. You and I have no idea about Russ's life.

Russ may come across as being rude and agressive and he does step out of line once in a while, but I saw his post as a sarcastic reposte to someone who has the hump with him because of his apparent rudeness.

No matter what problems we face in life, family will always be proud of and love you. At least I hope they are. Even the most obnoxious families love their chav kids, no matter how often they're sent down. You and I may not understand this unless we are in a similar situation and I'm not thank heavens.

Shall we all move away from name calling now?

[Black Green & Gold]

Grief ...

It's no wonder the kids are like they are :twisted:

There was me hoping to have a decent debate on the issue and it's decended into a round of play ground name calling ...

[MissFluffy'n'Pink]

Sorry BGG, but he p***ed me off.